my wife doesn't care when i'm sick

Sign #11: Doesnt talk about the future. I can understand mentioning it to him and maybe even asking, but begging?? My husband would blame me for ruining his life. Yep. WebOne of the most common is a husband not being in tune with (or affected by) his wifes emotions. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. He always says "you don't know me and to give him a chance to prove himself". The former provides you both with a structure that can work (does for many couples.) So i'm just learning but this is an ADHD trait? That's not even in my nature.". When he is having a great day, like this past Saturday, my efforts were worth it but I won't pretend that he is fixed. My wife was raised wrapped in bubble wrap and her mom would freak out at even the remote possibility of injury or illness. We have elementary aged children and he works at a demanding job. I couldn't even keep them down or even water it was so bad and my mom called the Doc back and he said if I couldn't keep the water or pills down to take me into the emergency room? "He worked all week ~ he's Tired and Deserves to Rest"!!! I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. My mom used to go hands on care for me when I get sick growing up. Submitted by Punkin on Fri, 03/10/2017 - 07:12. Thanks a lot!" I am a Marvel hero, as you have said. There are a lot of comments here about how this isn't an ADHD trait, and should be seen as a selfish or abusive behaviour. In preparation, he never did set up a way to communicate with her (In the entire last year), did not reach out to her before or after the surgery. Do you always expect your wife to cook everything? I, ME, MINE!! That takes some effort, but is doable by almost all. By then its too late. I want to say Thank you for sharing your story. (and the smell, yuck) Even his clothes smell like old grease. Keep in mind that on his days off (F,ST,SN), he Does NOTHING! I did it again. Eventually, he got through it and started healing. It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. I think the explanation for her behavior lies in a few traits from her background: Latina with history of macho men in her past. Are you 5 years old? And although I don't think I have verbalized it completely just yet, I KNOW that THIS is the total crux of MY difficulty with H. We LOVE differently. I have been enlightened and no longer feel alone. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. Okay, WE?? You go through all of this, the burden of having a partner with a chronic illness who is always sick, the worry when I dont text back for a while and you know Im home alone, the household chores I cant do, not because you dont care about my illness, but because you care about me. I signed up for a local meal prep service, where they prepped a few dinners. Ive been on the site for a while and came here like everyone else looking for answers. If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. Oops! And my mother ( the other one with ADHD who I got it from? This is the response of a person who lives in the present. Just comes to the door and looks at me like a piece of meat and then walks away and leaves after all of that? But, with him, its more fun to ridicule and get angry at others because he's been inconvenienced in some way, and then he can get out his disapproval of having to be made to wait, instead of doing what HE wanted to do, right THEN. And here is my confession, for I fall short of a Marvel superhero. I don't think this is necessarily an ADHD thing. Later Ilet him know I am very sick and need some help. Its an open concept house and he's painted the walls all different colors, but again, half done. 2 months ago I had a Hysterectomy. Lets look at the options: 1. Please ask around or ask someone in your family to get online and see what public options are available for you- to either improve your eye sight or get back to your home country. I was out of character. She was probably raised in a household without empathy for sick people. He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. I didn't get medical help until nearly 12 hours later. I think many spouses with ADD are extremely selfish and will never realize that a healthy relationship requires compromise, compassion, and patience. Recently I was knocked down by a He is scared about his health lately. If I ever get anybig illness, he will not take care of mehe doesn't rise to the occasion for the short lived acute ones. I even passed out in front of my kids on the floor, and they had to yell at him to help me. I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. Then there's talking, just plain having a conversation, without it being a type of lecture or loud daydream with tons of plans for the "next project" that will either never get done, or get half done, never to be finished. Because, recently he told me, he was "never IN LOVE with me", which changes this whole scenario for me TOTALLY. Duped again. It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. Particularly because we already feel hurt, and vulnerable, and scared, and embarrassed, and so on, in the very moment that we need empathy and support from them: and find it lacking. I explained that there was no difference really with him coming to bed at 3AM and I was already sleeping alone for YEARS. I would like to see him live with this and all the pain and cognitive dysfunction it causes. I agree 100%. Set up a way for it to not be inconsistent. It was a high pressure job in sales and recruiting, with a manager who later got in trouble for harrassingstaff and being absolutely unprofessional. He came home from work at 9pm and I said I was throwing up and had terrible stomach cramps etc. You must have JavaScript enabled to use this form. I am a partner though, specifically yours. This detachment causes children to grow up detached from making intimate friendships and relationships as an adult, to closely love others. (pleasantly though, I LOVE MY DAUGHTER, and am glad she was born) My example is though, that people really DON'T want long term consequences for their actions, and in today's world, excuses and denials are what so many folks use to get "out of" having to live with the results of their own actions. Barf and poop, rehydrate, and take care of yourself. To live content with small means; to be worthy, not respectable; to listen to stars and birds, babes and sages, with open heart; to study hard; to think quietly, act frankly, talk gently, this is my symphony. He literally goes deaf ears when I tell him Im sick. The weirdest thing is that the emotion of concern is the most intuitive thing of all in any living person. And that look on his face is what I will always remember. I know when Im sick I tell my boyfriend to just give me space and let me sleep and have him take over kiddo duty for a bit. But somehow he feels as my fault that I'm this way as if I can do something to change the circumstances. Not a very nice thing to do to someone you say you "love". I count my lucky stars his empathy score wasn't way off neurotypical, but even so, it is affected, and I do notice he's MUCH better about me being ill when he's just had what I've caught, because he doesn't have to imagine how I feel, he knows from personal experience. He is loved by many, not evil. I wish he'd just admit he''s not the handyman he thinks he IS. So I don't ask for anything beyond desperate needs. Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. I am not overwhelmingly rude or obnoxious or in his face. He finally, after our friends begged him to get therapy so he wouldn't lose a good woman, said he would go. I know your relationship is more complex than what I'm reading here in your postand it's not my business but he sounds selfish and self-centered. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! After all, when he is around me he can make me miserable by extension of his bad mood. He is withdrawing from you, and youre feeling alone. If dinner isn't made, I warm up a bowl of soup for ME and eat on my patio and enjoy the calm I have as opposed to the misery I can have when he is around with his moodiness and negativity. If that had been me standing there coming to see me after all of that? She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. Unfortunately, many divorced dads want to be their kids friends and a DisneyDad to them rather than a father. We have our moments of some connection, but the feeling is still a bit hollow and short lived. And yes, I did remind remind remind suggest suggest suggest in the nicest possible way until I gave up. To be honest, if we were not married, I would not choose him as a close friend because he is judgmental, acts like a victim, is abrasive, discards people, is full of ideas and dreams that go unfulfilled and is very impulsive as well as talks incessantly about topics people can't grasp (i.e quantum mechanics- high IQ, low common sense). I jokingly call(ed) her "Florence Nightingale" because even others would notice how completely oblivious she was/is to any illness or discomfort on my part. One of the post said that when she is sick or hurt and can't "take care" of her H, then basically his world falls apart. Nothing sexual ever happened but after 2 years of him love bombing me, calling me hot, beautiful, his soul mate, his twin, etc, he would discard me when I got too needy and hoover me back in when he needed an emotional pick me up. But in the end, that doesn't matter either. (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). When my wife is sick, I tend to wait on her. We all experience them. It was like neither of us care that we were damaging our marriage. Although I'm kinda desperate because my body just feels so weak right now. You love me. But one person doing all the nice things, loving things is very hard and eventually we all get tired of begging. My SO is not yet undergoing any kind of treatment. I'm curious to see a female's perspective on this, especially someone who has been married to see if this holds true. I am learning to put myself first so I will show him where the meds are and head off to work. It's not just the ADHD, but he won't go get a full evaluation. He still ignored andhung by the pool by himself. I really appreciate your insight. But still, if I do get sick and need something, he's there, doing whatever. I said no. I'm feeling better now! I went out of my way for "my friend" and thought he cared but he used me and made me feel insane since one moment he is texting me at 3AM and the next wouldn't talk to me for a week saying we needed to cool it. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. I am not an illness. I can see how the advocated plan/tricks might work to create connection. I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. This means you may think it's obvious when you need a hug or some connection, but they may not 'see' it. If my husband had a stomach bug that lasted a few days and he didnt go to the doctor I would probably be like your wife too. I was really pissed and hurt that he didnt seem to care. I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. (regardless of what his mother did to him when he was small) Somewhere insidehimself, he knew he was holding back, and still did it, to his own detriment and the detriment of our marriage and love. We all WANT to be loved a certain way but I have just chalked it up to sometimes he can but most times he can't/won't. He shows no concern for me - and this has to be narcissistic personality disorder. The house is in shambles, and is a complete mess everywhere you look.It looks like I stepped into a scene from "Hoarders", the television show. Qualities many w ADDdo not possess. Fortunately, I feel a little better now. My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. But it only works if it's recent. Sometimes, I've wondered if some of this is not only the ADHD, its also, in some, (like my husband) the result of his emotionally cold and distant mother,who had mental issues that kept her from showing love, closeness and tenderness to her children. Narcissistic SpouseDoesnt Care whether You Live Or Die. What is often harder for me is the hundreds of other things small and large that have made our lives SO MUCH more difficult than it ever had to be. When I am sick I want to be left alone, just let me sleep it off. I learned about myself and learned some hard lessons. Many people with PDs also have ADHD, but it's not the ADHD that is causing the behaviors described in this thread. So pick your battles my friends and learn about yourself in the process. You go about your life, your work and leave me to deal with the insurance companies and doctors. I have learned from him that I have always mothered him and even though I am awesome, I have given so much with littleeffort in return because he is hyperfocused on his priorities. Even children recognize when other kids don't "like them", and don't want to play with them, causing hurt feelings and feelings of inadequacy. WebA female reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 November 2011): It doesn't mean that he doesn't care. Very hard to comprehend and maybe that means we are ok.It is illogical and very sad to live with like that from both sides. Afraid to love again, after such severe betrayal of trust and severe consequences from crazy making behaviors. 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. He/she is merciless. Whenever I am sick, all I get from my husband is sorry. He love(s) the one he is with..as in.."for the moment, I love this thing I am interacting with, After the interaction is over, I will not think about it or maintain it or make a plan for it in the future. So he's taking it easy today and napping on and off. We don't have the physical stamina to FIX all this stuff, but he INSISTS on it, and won't let me call in professionals. Sometimes it's commitment to dinner hour where you discuss things together (rather than eating alone). It is a difficult way to have to be for someone whose nature isbenevolent and caring but it seems thesequalities are manipulated by the ADD spouse making the non spousefeel worthless. I will not call for a man when I am sick. WebIt is not a crime to not care for a spouse when they are sick. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. I agree his kids should come first. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. My hu My A-Hole ex Husband was a jerk to me when I broke my foot the year before we divorced. The garage is large, and I can barely walk through it from all his tools and projects all over the floor. Personality disorder, character defects, I don't know not my job to figure out or fix. This has been validating. You know where I keep my emergency information, when to call 911. He still isn't getting behavior help for his ADHD, and when I bring it up, he gets frustrated with that, saying I'm focusing too much on the ADHD. I was so ill from stress and he never checked on me. Your sweatn the small stuff it's normal. I handle everything around the house, she For example, my husband pulled the kids card every holidayas a way to justify seeing his family far more than mineuntil I put a stop to it. Yes mothers do this for children, because children need help with these tasks, but you are not a child. Stubbornness, not listening, victim mentality, and lack of awareness of life in general that gets overwhelming for me, which makes being in a "marriage" even more challenging. My husband responded to me that if I went on medical leave I would have to stop seeing my doctor because he wouldn't pay for it anymore. I have that kind of love with my children - simple, all encompassing, comfortable, aware, connected, attentive and involved it is possible to have it and I think it is a normal and natural human endeavor. If your S.O. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. I hear you, I cant count the number of times my husband made it very clear that myillness was a hughinconvenience for him there was no thought to how it made me feel. Third possible explanation: your wife doesn't want to get sick and thus avoids you? He even broke the kitchen sink to where it only puts out hot water. I just need a bit of support lol anyway, my wife won't be back until 4 PM. Blank. Im the one who is on disability and hasnt worked in two years. When you find out your spouse is seriously ill, its natural to feel overwhelmed by fear and confusion. It is obvious that ADD people rarely change for any measurable amount of time. Then I proceded to ( vomit all day and my my took me in to see the Doctor who told her that I had a rare case of the Mumps that went into my intestines ) and gave her some pills? Otherwise she knows that I will go down and get whatever I want. And we would just keep saying hurtful things to each other. I was about to turn 40 and here I was watching a grown man turn red in the face, speak horribly to himself for a broken scraper. Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. Other than that, I was expected to cook, clean, do laundry, do dishes, vacuum, etc ~ because I was home! I know when I'm sick, I freak out about being a burden & not pulling my weight. He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. It seems to b If I ever mention his behavior of that day, he gets mad at me and tells me that "I Never let things go and that I am to blame because I can't "forgive" him". I was "out of commission" for 6 weeks. And of course, my fave from Walter Mitty movie "Beautiful things don't ask for attention. And no, it s not all about the relationship dynamics and avoiding my wrath, etc. He told I just had the flu and went to bed. Once in a while he says hello but its almost like it never happened. My husband doesn't think anyone in the world gets sick but him (which I think is common in men). I am a romantic to this day. When someone is sick or injured.I'm first respondentjust so you know? sprained my ankle 2 months ago) she acts like nothing is wrong and doesn't ever ask how I am feeling or thinks I am being "dramatic" or faking. A male. Do I wish that were not the case? Whichever it is, I wasted most of my life trying to make something work that couldn't. I thrive from who I am independently although I still try to be a good wife and hold down most of the responsibilities that keep our family looking good for the most part. Thanks, man. Submitted by adhd32 on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 13:56. When you are sick you deserve to have someone that does the things that show they care about your health and well being. He hates the snow. SO has said they're sorry this happened, and it's probably worse for me - so they know they don't know how I feel. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Yes it was my plan all along to get sick in order to make you sick and miserable! She was diagnosed with a mood disorder and anxiety in 2008. If you need help, I will cook dinner". Hed get one color half done, then start on a new color somewhere else. is already like this, it will only get worse. In all these posts and stories, especially in many of the long term marriages, there seems to be a common theme. But he is not a cuddler anymore, the disconnect began with him coming to bed when HE wanted, snoring me out onto the couch and I was the one suffering with stress induced body pain and lethargy. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. I have an illness. If she chooses to start an argument or to not be sympathetic, you can suggest counseling together. Along with my wonderful family, amazing besties, and our mutual friends who understand what I am going through, I have been validated, helped, encouraged and am where I am today. I have made myself the central focus in our relationship. Run!!! But I havent been acting like it. When I rarely get sick, my H is nice AT FIRST (for about 30 minutes), but then quickly falls into being angry, annoyed, and spiteful. Lately he finds more reasons than not to leave the house to help someone else anybody else. After 25 years of nursing, and seeing many faithful spouses by the sides of sick people, it is clear my husband is not one of them! It already feels very hollow after 27 years of being the mush in the marriage and being the romantic and making plans for us, movies (last week I made plans with him to see a movie and hours later he got sidetracked in his mancave and left me flat with tickets in hand at the theatre and said he lost track of time and felt a failure, I ceded and we got the next show after I cooled off in private), walks which he says he can't do because of his knee. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. I would have been down on my kneesbegging for forgiveness.for making me go swimming with 104 degree temperatureand not believing me or showing the concern when I was told that I was sick and didn't feel well? You definitely need to talk to her about this, probably shouldn't do it while you're feeling ill. Wanting to CONNECT? You also don't have a role model to teach or even show you HOW to connect. Which to that, I feel he used me to have someone to marry and to love HIM, but he knew he wasn't going to return that. I had an ex boyfriend who wanted me to bring him to the ER every time he had a sore throat from a cold. I couldn't handle it. Well, this time, I was calm, I got out of the car and changed my mind but he told me to get back in. That is when he finally paid attention to me and accepted that I was sick. So it's easier when you can say, "ok 20% sucks if I let it but 80% is fabulous". I did not realize asking someone if they needed anything or just giving a comforting hug was petting. (not a good sign). If that's something that you can't handle, it's best to call it off. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. You are not important. Can totally relate to your post. I wasn't even allowed to adjust my own pillows. Just gotta get used to it! Submitted by jennalemone on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 14:09. WebI love my wife. Of course, I got no help from him with ANYTHING for the 6 weeks my foot was in the cast. We've never broached this subject before and I'm worried about it ending up in a fight. What symptoms first occurred in Instead of cowering and bursting into tears, I told him to back off, get away from me, and that If I had to crawl down the hill on my hands and knees to get to the ceremony, I would. I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. not good. Love. She will come in and ask me if I need/want anything and see how I am doing. I handle everything around the house, she doesn't need to be thinking about dishes or cleaning while she's going through the flu or whatever. Submitted by Exhaustedlady87 (not verified) on Fri, 11/15/2019 - 16:54. 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